It's been nearly five months since my last post. And ironically, my last post was about hope. I had no idea that this would be tested (and still is) in such an extreme way just a month after I wrote it. I thought lower back pain was hard...and then my son's eczema flared like it has never flared before, and again I was faced with despair, discouragement, and anxiety. And this time I really plummeted into darkness. I have experienced dark seasons before, but I would say this past spring has been one of the "darkest nights of the soul" that I have lived through yet. And I say "lived through" but really I am still on the edge, perhaps emerging out of the darkness, but not yet in the light where all feels well. My hope has felt tested, rung out, dried in the sun. I have had many days and nights where I had to ask others to hope and believe for me. There have been days where I couldn't imagine how I would make it through the day. Anxiety is like that...it pushes your mind into a hamster wheel spin and your body goes into fight or flight mode. The future looks bleak, and so the present moment feels intolerable. And yet the only way out of this is to enter into this present moment as much as possible and begin to feel "safe" in it again. It's a LONG s l o w journey back to the present moment. In four months time I have filled my journal's pages with prayers, requests to be restored, and anything I could imagine that might help encourage me to take this breath...and the next breath. And hope has just been a small flicker, at times virtually nonexistent. At other times a moment would find me saying "I will get better" and I would be surprised by this "out of nowhere" hope. And so hope's seeds were in me, they just seemed covered over by all the despair and anxiety. And yet, they did not disappear altogether.
Perhaps hope is like that. It's not some big bright flower in full bloom that makes you feel all cheerful and happy, but rather a subtle new sprout poking through the winter's soil. It takes courage to hope, and it takes hope to have courage. It takes trust to hope, and it takes hope to trust. Really, I had little to do with the hope that would suddenly spring up in me. It was a miracle, really. And that is only the beginning of what I am learning in this season. How much my faith is about Him and not about what I can muster alone. How having enough faith doesn't mean it all turns out as we wanted it to. I am seeing how much more faith it takes to hold on to my beliefs when it's in the unseen, not the seen. When the storm waves are high and we cling to our faith, that is where courage and trust are truly tested. And that is when the hand of God, holding onto us, is all that we can hope for. I could not have made it through these last few months if God's hand was not mightier than my own. I have heard people say "hold onto God" but my grasp was not enough. And so I said "God, hold onto me." And that is what he did for Peter when he stepped onto the water, out of the comfort of his boat. When Peter's faith was not enough to hold him up on the water, Jesus reached his hand out. "Oh you of little faith." Those words can sound harsh and condemning and yet I am coming to see how full of compassion they are. Because, yes, I am of little faith. If we are honest with ourselves (and others) are we not all of little faith if life isn't going well? Faith seems strong and easy when our prayers are answered and all goes as "it should". But when our prayers go unanswered, or the answer isn't what we had wanted or imagined...where is faith? Yes--I am of little faith. And yet, Jesus reaches his hand out to me and saves me from falling. He loves me that much! He has faith in me! And that is what enables me to hope again, and what enables me to have faith the size of a mustard seed (that's tiny). Because it's not about what I bring to the table that will get me out of this place of darkness. It's what God brings to us. It's about Him. And that is enough.
Monday, July 6, 2015
Tuesday, January 13, 2015
to hope
Hope does not disappoint us
I have heard this line many times, and I've even said it to myself. But it has never struck me with just how profound it is until today. I have been laying flat on my bed a lot this year (yes, the year is only 2 weeks old...). I had the flu for a week, and then just when I was feeling better I got struck with lower back pain. Back on the bed. And while for some they would just roll with this knowing it will pass soon enough, I began to feel despair. Will my back ever get better? Will I ever get off this bed? Will I ever be able to be "normal" again? And while these questions seem ridiculous to my husband who would try to assure me "Yes, you will get better!" I was not feeling too sure.
This morning I got out of bed and could feel the tightness in my back. Ugh, still there. Each morning I roll out of bed and see "will it be a good day today?" based on how I feel. The tightness and pain seemed to say "nope, still there. Perhaps it's just not going to get any better." Yep, that's what kind of "optimism" I am wired with. I know, kind of pathetic. But there it is. This belief in me...this idea that when things are hard there's really no hope. I see the dark side of it all. Start imagining myself being a mom that is sick and laying on a bed all the time. I start to play out the worst scenarios. Horrible back pain that I will have to learn to live with. And on and on. My husband tries to be sympathetic towards me at first, but his patience runs thin. (Whose wouldn't?!)
But these words "hope doesn't disappoint us" came into my head this morning...seemingly out of nowhere. And instead of letting them float out just as they floated in, they stuck. They felt like a message I was supposed to listen to. So I pondered what it means that hope doesn't disappoint us. You mean, I can have hope even when I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel? Even when my back aches day after day without relief, I can entertain hope? I don't have to be filled with fear, despair, worry? I can dare to hope? Dare to believe that things will get better. Dare to believe life is still good.
This is new to me. A major "aha!" moment as I savor this idea. As I attempt to let hope enter into a heart that has been so full of fear. Anytime I suffer or face pain, my first response is fear. But oh, to hope! To be free to let what I cannot control be God's, and to let hope lift my spirit. To feel the lightness of hope. To DARE to believe in what I cannot see yet. That is so delicious sounding! I want it!
Lord, teach my unbelieving heart to hope. Stretch my spirit beyond what I see. Enable me to expand to new heights--to trust you and thus be filled with hope. That is my desire, my prayer. Let it be!
I have heard this line many times, and I've even said it to myself. But it has never struck me with just how profound it is until today. I have been laying flat on my bed a lot this year (yes, the year is only 2 weeks old...). I had the flu for a week, and then just when I was feeling better I got struck with lower back pain. Back on the bed. And while for some they would just roll with this knowing it will pass soon enough, I began to feel despair. Will my back ever get better? Will I ever get off this bed? Will I ever be able to be "normal" again? And while these questions seem ridiculous to my husband who would try to assure me "Yes, you will get better!" I was not feeling too sure.
This morning I got out of bed and could feel the tightness in my back. Ugh, still there. Each morning I roll out of bed and see "will it be a good day today?" based on how I feel. The tightness and pain seemed to say "nope, still there. Perhaps it's just not going to get any better." Yep, that's what kind of "optimism" I am wired with. I know, kind of pathetic. But there it is. This belief in me...this idea that when things are hard there's really no hope. I see the dark side of it all. Start imagining myself being a mom that is sick and laying on a bed all the time. I start to play out the worst scenarios. Horrible back pain that I will have to learn to live with. And on and on. My husband tries to be sympathetic towards me at first, but his patience runs thin. (Whose wouldn't?!)
But these words "hope doesn't disappoint us" came into my head this morning...seemingly out of nowhere. And instead of letting them float out just as they floated in, they stuck. They felt like a message I was supposed to listen to. So I pondered what it means that hope doesn't disappoint us. You mean, I can have hope even when I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel? Even when my back aches day after day without relief, I can entertain hope? I don't have to be filled with fear, despair, worry? I can dare to hope? Dare to believe that things will get better. Dare to believe life is still good.
This is new to me. A major "aha!" moment as I savor this idea. As I attempt to let hope enter into a heart that has been so full of fear. Anytime I suffer or face pain, my first response is fear. But oh, to hope! To be free to let what I cannot control be God's, and to let hope lift my spirit. To feel the lightness of hope. To DARE to believe in what I cannot see yet. That is so delicious sounding! I want it!
Lord, teach my unbelieving heart to hope. Stretch my spirit beyond what I see. Enable me to expand to new heights--to trust you and thus be filled with hope. That is my desire, my prayer. Let it be!
Friday, December 5, 2014
as we wait
Advent is a season of waiting. The time we prepare for Christmas. In tangible ways we are buying presents, decorating our homes, and listening to songs that get us in the mood. But deeper down, I think the question remains of how are we preparing our hearts and clearing the way for the real gift of Christmas?
I wonder if some people stop celebrating Christmas because they've given up on the idea that there is anything good coming at Christmas.
What are we really waiting for?
Every year we put up the tree, put the lights up and hang the ornaments. We may even set out a nativity scene. We do the same thing each year--do you ever wonder why? Or perhaps you've even stopped practicing some of these traditions (who likes putting the tree back in the box when the season is over?!!)
Do we still believe that there is something to hope for in life? has the waiting become too long for our weary souls? Are we living in parched times where the only things that seem like the answers are what the shopping malls and amazon tell us will bring us and our loved ones joy this Christmas? Is there anything more for our hungry souls and minds? Is there really any good news worth celebrating Christmas for?
I feel thoughtful as we put our own tree up. The boys were so excited to get the tree out of its box (no real trees here!) and woke us up at 7 am the day after Thanksgiving. By 9 or 10 am our tree was fully lit and decorated, and with only a smidgen of help from an adult. Their childlike excitement was in the air, even if mom and dad weren't encouraging it. (Some holiday music thanks to iTunes helped set the mood for mom and dad). And then the step back...admiring the tree. Beauty.
And then we wait. "How many days until Christmas?" Noah asked. And this question could never come up with a satisfactory answer as in a 5 year old's brain, weeks are hard to process. So we broke it down to days. Of course, anything greater than 1-2 days seems like eternity to a child.
But wait is all we can do. (And as adults we know that really 25 days is hardly any time at all to wait...we've been doing this so long that we know it comes and goes like the blink of an eye).
So what do we do while we wait? And what are we really waiting for? Those 20 minutes on Christmas morning when the presents are opened, and then it's all over? Days and days of waiting for this glorious moment, and then it's just a pile of wrapping paper...
What can we learn about this time of waiting? Can it not be the place of great joy as we anticipate the coming of a little baby? The arrival of a baby at the end of 9 months of carrying and "knowing" this little child. The anticipation of labor--something that brings fear, yet also joy to the waiting parents.
But do we have hope or despair as we wait? Do we feel a sense of dread as we wait? Perhaps nothing good will come after all this waiting? Or do we still have a childlike wonder...that life really does have good things at the end of a long wait? There really is something worth waiting for--something we cannot hurry and buy or fix, something we must hope for and believe will come.
What are you waiting for? A new job, a raise? Or maybe you're waiting for the depression to lift, or the anxiety to go away. Waiting for a friend, or a spouse to share life with. Waiting for things to get better.
Do you have hope as you wait? Do you still believe in the goodness that will come after the wait? Or do you feel despair? The wait has felt so long, or everything seems to point to disappointment. In a time when waiting is hard, when we can push a 1 click button on amazon to buy the thing that may bring momentary happiness, waiting is more important than ever. Our souls are hungry. If we stop for a moment and reflect, we will see, there is something we are still waiting for. Something that is still calling our childlike wonder to hope. Can we not allow the Christmas lights to beckon us to hope? That there really is something Good worth waiting for.
And he is faithful...he will not fail any of us in the waiting.
And still, we wait.
I wonder if some people stop celebrating Christmas because they've given up on the idea that there is anything good coming at Christmas.
What are we really waiting for?
Every year we put up the tree, put the lights up and hang the ornaments. We may even set out a nativity scene. We do the same thing each year--do you ever wonder why? Or perhaps you've even stopped practicing some of these traditions (who likes putting the tree back in the box when the season is over?!!)
Do we still believe that there is something to hope for in life? has the waiting become too long for our weary souls? Are we living in parched times where the only things that seem like the answers are what the shopping malls and amazon tell us will bring us and our loved ones joy this Christmas? Is there anything more for our hungry souls and minds? Is there really any good news worth celebrating Christmas for?
I feel thoughtful as we put our own tree up. The boys were so excited to get the tree out of its box (no real trees here!) and woke us up at 7 am the day after Thanksgiving. By 9 or 10 am our tree was fully lit and decorated, and with only a smidgen of help from an adult. Their childlike excitement was in the air, even if mom and dad weren't encouraging it. (Some holiday music thanks to iTunes helped set the mood for mom and dad). And then the step back...admiring the tree. Beauty.
And then we wait. "How many days until Christmas?" Noah asked. And this question could never come up with a satisfactory answer as in a 5 year old's brain, weeks are hard to process. So we broke it down to days. Of course, anything greater than 1-2 days seems like eternity to a child.
But wait is all we can do. (And as adults we know that really 25 days is hardly any time at all to wait...we've been doing this so long that we know it comes and goes like the blink of an eye).
So what do we do while we wait? And what are we really waiting for? Those 20 minutes on Christmas morning when the presents are opened, and then it's all over? Days and days of waiting for this glorious moment, and then it's just a pile of wrapping paper...
What can we learn about this time of waiting? Can it not be the place of great joy as we anticipate the coming of a little baby? The arrival of a baby at the end of 9 months of carrying and "knowing" this little child. The anticipation of labor--something that brings fear, yet also joy to the waiting parents.
But do we have hope or despair as we wait? Do we feel a sense of dread as we wait? Perhaps nothing good will come after all this waiting? Or do we still have a childlike wonder...that life really does have good things at the end of a long wait? There really is something worth waiting for--something we cannot hurry and buy or fix, something we must hope for and believe will come.
What are you waiting for? A new job, a raise? Or maybe you're waiting for the depression to lift, or the anxiety to go away. Waiting for a friend, or a spouse to share life with. Waiting for things to get better.
Do you have hope as you wait? Do you still believe in the goodness that will come after the wait? Or do you feel despair? The wait has felt so long, or everything seems to point to disappointment. In a time when waiting is hard, when we can push a 1 click button on amazon to buy the thing that may bring momentary happiness, waiting is more important than ever. Our souls are hungry. If we stop for a moment and reflect, we will see, there is something we are still waiting for. Something that is still calling our childlike wonder to hope. Can we not allow the Christmas lights to beckon us to hope? That there really is something Good worth waiting for.
And he is faithful...he will not fail any of us in the waiting.
And still, we wait.
Friday, November 7, 2014
on doing and being
One of my least favorite questions these days is "What have you been doing lately?" This question also comes in the form of "what are you up to?" etc. And in all its forms, I struggle to give an answer. Is it because I've lived outside of America so long that all my social skills are gone? I can't fake my way through a conversation anymore? Or more likely it's because I'm just not "doing" much that people would be interested in. I'm not working right now...I'm a stay at home mom. So my answer could be something like "I've been cooking, doing dishes, folding laundry, and sitting on the couch reading Facebook for my social life!" Ha ha! But I know that's not the interesting answer the asker is looking for.
And so I just respond with a stutter and a blank face. What's the answer they are looking for? Sometimes I mutter "oh, not much." or I try to fumble through my head in search of what we did recently that might be of interest "well, we actually went fishing yesterday." etc. etc.
But recently I was humored (and admittedly a bit hurt) when a woman who asks me this question every time she sees me answered it for herself.
"Hey Lori, what have you been up to?" I smiled and was quickly trying to think of some reply...and then she cut in with "same ol', same ol'" and then she turned to the person standing next to me.
Wow! That really boxed me in. I felt completely "known" and yet completely "Unknown" if you know what I mean! In just a brief exchange I felt she already had made her conclusion--Lori has nothing going on in her life of interest, and so I'll just go ahead and answer my question for her.
Being that we already feel a bit strange and on the outside here--a natural part of culture reentry shock--it didn't really go over well for me. I came home and relayed the story to Pete. I later told the story again to a friend who knows me and could laugh about it with me.
But why did it hurt me? And why did I find myself analyzing this brief interaction?
I think it's because it touches the heart of what this journey of the past year has been for me.
When we left Laos I had been in the mode of doing for several years. And I always felt like I was falling short. But if you'd asked me, "What have you been doing these days?" I would have had an answer. I could have listed several things off for you. I was doing things.
But I was failing at a lot of the things I was doing. It was not fulfilling my need to be someone. I was only reminded constantly of what I was not doing, not capable of doing, etc.
And one of the first questions I sat with in the beginning of our Sabbatical year was
"Who am I?"
and this one question began to unravel so many layers in me. Began to get to the heart of my longing. What doing could never give me. I could do do do and never know myself, and there could always be an ache inside that would leave me with the question of "Who am I if I can't..."
But this three word question "Who am I?" was one that would begin a journey of healing in me. Set me free.
For the next several months I read books, journaled, thought about this question. And have come to a place where I realize that doing cannot define us. If we try to define who we are by what we do, we will always feel insufficient, not enough, hungry, disappointed, etc. Even if we are doing amazing things that impress others. And when doing defines who we are, and when we live into this, I think anxiety and depression are trailing close behind. Anxiety about keeping it up. Gotta keep doing more. We aren't free to say no. People might not like us. We might disappoint people. So we say yes to way more than we can truly do.
And again, I am reminded of the picture I had just before we left Laos...(if you've been reading my blog some of my stories will start to sound familiar as they weave in and out of my writing)
remember the plate spinner? The lady who is trying to keep more than a dozen plates spinning, but then the nervous breakdown comes when she realizes she CAN NOT SPIN THOSE PLATES ANYMORE! They're going to start crashing down...
ANXIETY!
But this question "Who am I?" was where God could begin to speak to me. Begin to show me that my worth was not at all from what I was doing, or not doing. He simply defined me as his beloved daughter. And if I could begin to know who I was as He saw me, then I could be free! Free of the burden of defining myself (and helping others to define me) by what I was doing.
Free! Who doesn't want to be free?!!!
And the journey continues (I know I say that a lot, but it's so true!)...
I continue to discover and live into the knowledge of who I am defined by my being, not my doing. This is not to say that I don't have to do anything anymore. But my doing is NOT where I will look to be defined. I don't have to prove to you, or others, or God, or myself that I am somebody based on what I do. I am free of this game!!! I get to BE the person I was created to be. And in knowing who I am, I am free to then exist and live out of this reality more and more. To flesh out this being, and becoming. To invite others into knowing who they are.
And so I've thought more of this question that is so much a part of our culture "What are you doing these days?" and have sometimes wondered, what if we asked "How are you being these days?" In a sense, asking how YOU are?
It's in being still, in clearing the desk off, in finding the lost gem of ourselves that we can find life. It's an invitation for all of us...
Do you dare ask yourself "Who am I?"
And so I just respond with a stutter and a blank face. What's the answer they are looking for? Sometimes I mutter "oh, not much." or I try to fumble through my head in search of what we did recently that might be of interest "well, we actually went fishing yesterday." etc. etc.
But recently I was humored (and admittedly a bit hurt) when a woman who asks me this question every time she sees me answered it for herself.
"Hey Lori, what have you been up to?" I smiled and was quickly trying to think of some reply...and then she cut in with "same ol', same ol'" and then she turned to the person standing next to me.
Wow! That really boxed me in. I felt completely "known" and yet completely "Unknown" if you know what I mean! In just a brief exchange I felt she already had made her conclusion--Lori has nothing going on in her life of interest, and so I'll just go ahead and answer my question for her.
Being that we already feel a bit strange and on the outside here--a natural part of culture reentry shock--it didn't really go over well for me. I came home and relayed the story to Pete. I later told the story again to a friend who knows me and could laugh about it with me.
But why did it hurt me? And why did I find myself analyzing this brief interaction?
I think it's because it touches the heart of what this journey of the past year has been for me.
When we left Laos I had been in the mode of doing for several years. And I always felt like I was falling short. But if you'd asked me, "What have you been doing these days?" I would have had an answer. I could have listed several things off for you. I was doing things.
But I was failing at a lot of the things I was doing. It was not fulfilling my need to be someone. I was only reminded constantly of what I was not doing, not capable of doing, etc.
And one of the first questions I sat with in the beginning of our Sabbatical year was
"Who am I?"
and this one question began to unravel so many layers in me. Began to get to the heart of my longing. What doing could never give me. I could do do do and never know myself, and there could always be an ache inside that would leave me with the question of "Who am I if I can't..."
But this three word question "Who am I?" was one that would begin a journey of healing in me. Set me free.
For the next several months I read books, journaled, thought about this question. And have come to a place where I realize that doing cannot define us. If we try to define who we are by what we do, we will always feel insufficient, not enough, hungry, disappointed, etc. Even if we are doing amazing things that impress others. And when doing defines who we are, and when we live into this, I think anxiety and depression are trailing close behind. Anxiety about keeping it up. Gotta keep doing more. We aren't free to say no. People might not like us. We might disappoint people. So we say yes to way more than we can truly do.
And again, I am reminded of the picture I had just before we left Laos...(if you've been reading my blog some of my stories will start to sound familiar as they weave in and out of my writing)
remember the plate spinner? The lady who is trying to keep more than a dozen plates spinning, but then the nervous breakdown comes when she realizes she CAN NOT SPIN THOSE PLATES ANYMORE! They're going to start crashing down...
ANXIETY!
But this question "Who am I?" was where God could begin to speak to me. Begin to show me that my worth was not at all from what I was doing, or not doing. He simply defined me as his beloved daughter. And if I could begin to know who I was as He saw me, then I could be free! Free of the burden of defining myself (and helping others to define me) by what I was doing.
Free! Who doesn't want to be free?!!!
And the journey continues (I know I say that a lot, but it's so true!)...
I continue to discover and live into the knowledge of who I am defined by my being, not my doing. This is not to say that I don't have to do anything anymore. But my doing is NOT where I will look to be defined. I don't have to prove to you, or others, or God, or myself that I am somebody based on what I do. I am free of this game!!! I get to BE the person I was created to be. And in knowing who I am, I am free to then exist and live out of this reality more and more. To flesh out this being, and becoming. To invite others into knowing who they are.
And so I've thought more of this question that is so much a part of our culture "What are you doing these days?" and have sometimes wondered, what if we asked "How are you being these days?" In a sense, asking how YOU are?
It's in being still, in clearing the desk off, in finding the lost gem of ourselves that we can find life. It's an invitation for all of us...
Do you dare ask yourself "Who am I?"
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
culture shock
Culture (reentry) shock is feeling
lost
like a child
strange
misunderstood
unknown
odd
on the outside
different
like an observer
small
but stick out like a sore thumb
quiet
but have a lot to say
funny
but not haha funny
exhausted from trying hard
out of sync
homesick
in a time warp
teary
grief
but there is beauty
in being an outsider
seeing what no one else sees anymore
with new eyes
able to be a learner
appreciate all that you do have
reconnecting with yourself
and with your Creator
making room for new things
new people
and the humility that comes
in not knowing how things are done here
and having to ask
and be a little off
sometimes when we are strangers
we actually remember the truth of what matters
not "fitting in"
but caring about people
and making room for others to feel safe
to take off their masks
and confess that they too don't have it all figured out!
lost
like a child
strange
misunderstood
unknown
odd
on the outside
different
like an observer
small
but stick out like a sore thumb
quiet
but have a lot to say
funny
but not haha funny
exhausted from trying hard
out of sync
homesick
in a time warp
teary
grief
but there is beauty
in being an outsider
seeing what no one else sees anymore
with new eyes
able to be a learner
appreciate all that you do have
reconnecting with yourself
and with your Creator
making room for new things
new people
and the humility that comes
in not knowing how things are done here
and having to ask
and be a little off
sometimes when we are strangers
we actually remember the truth of what matters
not "fitting in"
but caring about people
and making room for others to feel safe
to take off their masks
and confess that they too don't have it all figured out!
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
us and them
I believe we all have a sense of us and them, and interact out of our feelings of us and them. And we have all been guilty at some point of helping define who is us, and who is them--a definition that will change depending on who we are with, and how we are trying to avoid being the "them".
But I'm sure we have all experienced being the "them"...the ones left out, not included, unwanted, separated from. And some of us, we will do anything to be an us again. Anything, even if it means not being the "them" we are associated with.
us, them
them, us
a world divided
but he came for the lost ones,
the lost sheep
the "them's"
because the "us" already had it figured out
what it meant to be in, what it meant to be out
they had already defined who the "us" were
leaving all the others to be the "them"
but he came into this chaos
he showed another way to define all the "us and them's"
he extended the invitation
first to the "us"
the great wedding feast
many guests were invited, and when the banquet was ready, <the king> sent his servants to notify everyone that it was time to come. But they all refused! So he sent other servants to tell them, "The feast has been prepared, and choice meats have been cooked. Everything is ready. Hurry!" But the guests he had invited ignored them and went about their business, one to his farm, another to his store. Others seized his messengers and treated them shamefully, even killing some of them."
sometimes the "us" we are trying to be
are too busy with the things that we are identifying ourselves with.
we miss the chance to become the greater "us"
but the king did not cancel his feast.
and he said to his servants, "The wedding feast is ready, and the guests I invited aren't worthy of the honor. Now go out to the street corners and invite everyone you see."
the street corners???? was the king crazy? had he lost his mind? he was going to invite "them" to come eat a feast that was set out for the chosen guests? shouldn't we just reschedule for when they are free?
but did the king already know how the story would end up? how the table would turn? if anything, it seems the king was angry. (come on king, what's the big deal?!)
"The king became furious. He sent out his army to destroy the murderers and burn their city. And he said to his servants, 'The wedding feast is ready, and the guests I invited aren't worthy of honor. Now go out to the street corners and invite everyone you see.'"
us, them
The chosen ones, the ones on the king's list did not come.
them, us
But the ones who had not been chosen became the chosen guests
--the ones the King wanted around his table
but the servants went out and "brought in everyone they could find, good and bad alike, and the banquet hall was filled with guests."
oh to be a part of that feast!
to see their faces--"Hey, we got invited to the King's feast! And all these years we were told we weren't welcome to come! All these years we were told that we were not good enough!
But look, we are around His table! We are eating foods fit for friends of the King!"
"them" became "us"
a table that welcomes all
a table where status falls away
nothing divides
we pass the food and our hands touch
we are all hungry as we gather around the table
hungry souls
We join together
around the table
and our eyes are opened
to the mystery of oneness
where we no longer decide who is us and them
and when we have feasted at this table
we are changed
we leave humbled
there is no division
no us and them
around his table
(story of the great feast from matthew 22)
But I'm sure we have all experienced being the "them"...the ones left out, not included, unwanted, separated from. And some of us, we will do anything to be an us again. Anything, even if it means not being the "them" we are associated with.
us, them
them, us
a world divided
but he came for the lost ones,
the lost sheep
the "them's"
because the "us" already had it figured out
what it meant to be in, what it meant to be out
they had already defined who the "us" were
leaving all the others to be the "them"
but he came into this chaos
he showed another way to define all the "us and them's"
he extended the invitation
first to the "us"
the great wedding feast
many guests were invited, and when the banquet was ready, <the king> sent his servants to notify everyone that it was time to come. But they all refused! So he sent other servants to tell them, "The feast has been prepared, and choice meats have been cooked. Everything is ready. Hurry!" But the guests he had invited ignored them and went about their business, one to his farm, another to his store. Others seized his messengers and treated them shamefully, even killing some of them."
sometimes the "us" we are trying to be
are too busy with the things that we are identifying ourselves with.
we miss the chance to become the greater "us"
but the king did not cancel his feast.
and he said to his servants, "The wedding feast is ready, and the guests I invited aren't worthy of the honor. Now go out to the street corners and invite everyone you see."
the street corners???? was the king crazy? had he lost his mind? he was going to invite "them" to come eat a feast that was set out for the chosen guests? shouldn't we just reschedule for when they are free?
but did the king already know how the story would end up? how the table would turn? if anything, it seems the king was angry. (come on king, what's the big deal?!)
"The king became furious. He sent out his army to destroy the murderers and burn their city. And he said to his servants, 'The wedding feast is ready, and the guests I invited aren't worthy of honor. Now go out to the street corners and invite everyone you see.'"
us, them
The chosen ones, the ones on the king's list did not come.
them, us
But the ones who had not been chosen became the chosen guests
--the ones the King wanted around his table
but the servants went out and "brought in everyone they could find, good and bad alike, and the banquet hall was filled with guests."
oh to be a part of that feast!
to see their faces--"Hey, we got invited to the King's feast! And all these years we were told we weren't welcome to come! All these years we were told that we were not good enough!
But look, we are around His table! We are eating foods fit for friends of the King!"
"them" became "us"
a table that welcomes all
a table where status falls away
nothing divides
we pass the food and our hands touch
we are all hungry as we gather around the table
hungry souls
We join together
around the table
and our eyes are opened
to the mystery of oneness
where we no longer decide who is us and them
and when we have feasted at this table
we are changed
we leave humbled
there is no division
no us and them
around his table
(story of the great feast from matthew 22)
Monday, October 27, 2014
remembering
01 June 2014
It was raining hard and the electricity went out the night of our departure. We finished packing up and taking showers with the light from a flashlight. Looking out the window I could see Chalau sitting in a covered area with our dog Sam beside her. We were leaving Sam behind with Chalau...did he sense that something was amiss? Did he feel left behind when we got into the truck with two sleepy boys and seven suitcases? We loaded the boys in the darkness as rain continued to come down, soaking the clothes we would be wearing for the next 24 hours. After a brief two hour nap we woke the boys up--"it's time to go!" Instead of staying asleep as we carried them to the truck they became fully awake, and thus able to take in their last moments in Chiang Mai. The four of us climbed into the loaded truck and quietly looked out as we pulled away from what had been our home, and drove down the street to say our good-byes to Chalau and her husband. She and her husband stood on the side of the road under their umbrellas in the darkness and pouring down rain. I got out of the car to give Chalau an awkward hug (hugging is not a Thai custom) and I could see that she was holding back emotions as she held onto my arm. Her son who had been Noah's buddy was fast asleep in their truck. He had come to say good-bye as well, but sleep came first. After a few words of blessing and good wishes from Chalau and her husband, we climbed back into the truck and waved our last good-byes. She stood under her umbrella in the rain, our dog Sam standing loyally next to her, as we drove away. A moment etched in my memory forever.
And just like that our year in Chiang Mai was over.
It was raining hard and the electricity went out the night of our departure. We finished packing up and taking showers with the light from a flashlight. Looking out the window I could see Chalau sitting in a covered area with our dog Sam beside her. We were leaving Sam behind with Chalau...did he sense that something was amiss? Did he feel left behind when we got into the truck with two sleepy boys and seven suitcases? We loaded the boys in the darkness as rain continued to come down, soaking the clothes we would be wearing for the next 24 hours. After a brief two hour nap we woke the boys up--"it's time to go!" Instead of staying asleep as we carried them to the truck they became fully awake, and thus able to take in their last moments in Chiang Mai. The four of us climbed into the loaded truck and quietly looked out as we pulled away from what had been our home, and drove down the street to say our good-byes to Chalau and her husband. She and her husband stood on the side of the road under their umbrellas in the darkness and pouring down rain. I got out of the car to give Chalau an awkward hug (hugging is not a Thai custom) and I could see that she was holding back emotions as she held onto my arm. Her son who had been Noah's buddy was fast asleep in their truck. He had come to say good-bye as well, but sleep came first. After a few words of blessing and good wishes from Chalau and her husband, we climbed back into the truck and waved our last good-byes. She stood under her umbrella in the rain, our dog Sam standing loyally next to her, as we drove away. A moment etched in my memory forever.
And just like that our year in Chiang Mai was over.
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